EFFECTIVE CHANGE

Quick & Effective Change

One of the main secrets to changing your life as quickly as possible is to identify the underlying patterns that stop you from manifesting what you most want in life - for instance, the relationship or the work situation of your dreams. 
Most people---including highly successful individuals---are experiencing what we could call "repeating patterns" in one or more areas of their lives. 

"Repeating patterns" are basically our version of Groundhog Day
(a movie where a man wakes up every morning to experience the same day over and over again). 

For instance, if you continuously find yourself with unreliable business partners or in unsatisfactory work situations, this is a repeating pattern.

If you continuously find yourself in relationships with emotionally unavailable partners, or with partners who do not support you, this is a repeating pattern.

Question: Can you think of other repeating patterns you have seen in people?
Do you have (or have you had) any of these patterns?

To change your life, change the underlying repeating patterns. 

The first step is to identify them!

You will likely need some qualified help to put these changes into place. 

However, understanding how repeating patterns impact your life will already give you the following benefits:  

- You will probably feel more relaxed once you have identified the issue you're facing more clearly.
- You will become more aware of the issues you are facing (awareness is the first step to change).
- Instead of having to resolve seemingly unrelated patterns, you can work with the core problem. 
    All of these benefits make the change process more effective and more manageable.

    Resolving any of these issues will have an incredibly positive impact on your life!

    Question: Can you think of other ways in which your life would benefit from changing repeating patterns?
    For instance, would your professional and private relationships improve? 
    Is there someone you would like to share this with?  

    Think of these repeating patterns as the "fractal patterns of your life."

    Wikipedia defines a fractal as "a natural phenomenon or a mathematical set that exhibits a repeating pattern that displays at every scale.”

    For an introduction to fractals in nature, check out this video:

    So what does this have to do with our lives?

    If we apply this concept to our own lives, we can see that certain patterns (which developed as a result of a core event) keep on repeating themselves in different areas of our life.

    For instance, a woman whose parents were very busy during her childhood and didn’t have time for her so that she always had to do everything herself might have developed the belief that she is not supported. 

    (As a side note: people also have positive fractal patterns. For instance, a positive fractal pattern could come from the belief “I can handle everything that comes my way." This belief might have developed as a result of having had the experience that one can indeed rise to the challenge.)

    How could the belief “I am not supported” manifest itself in different areas of life?

    Here are just a few examples to get you started:

    Career: having to do everything yourself, your co-workers/partners/bosses don’t have your back, etc.;

    Relationship: a spouse who is not there for you when needed, parents who do not support your dreams, etc.;

    Finance: working extra hard to support others financially without having them reciprocate, etc.;

    Health: not getting the adequate support from others to achieve your health goals, etc.

    Exercise: Identify a key fractal pattern in your life and how it manifests in different areas of your life. 


    Would you like to take the next step?
    If so, I invite you to explore if Work You Love Coaching is a good fit for you. This coaching approach & the tools available to you can help you change negative repeating patterns into positive ones. 

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