Work You Love Coach works with amazing individuals who have already achieved a level of success in their lives. They are smart, caring and engaging people who are good at what they do.
Yet despite their outward success, they are not completely satisfied.
That is because they doubt that they are doing the work they are supposed to be doing.
Often, they find themselves stuck in an apparent dilemma between pursuing a safe, but unfulfilling career OR living their passion, but being financially precarious.
Can you relate? If so, please read on.
What's really going on?
The Money-Meaning Dilemma
This dilemma is actually very common in our culture. It is based on the societal belief that we can only have money or meaning in our lives.
According to this belief system, people have the choice between two bad options --- to either ignore their desire to do the work they really love to do, or to sacrifice their need for financial security.
In other words, to either choose the path of money (i.e. external success) or the path of meaning (i.e. internal fulfillment).
At first glance, it might seem that money is more important than meaning. However, according to the late Austrian psychiatrist and Holocaust survivor Viktor Frankl"[t]here is nothing in the world [...] that would so effectively help one to survive even the worst conditions as the knowledge that there is a meaning in one's life."
Having survived Auschwitz, Frankl's observations about meaning were not of a theoretical nature. What we can take from this is that while money helps fulfill basic and other needs, meaning gives people a reason to live.
Whereas money can give us a sense of success, meaning provides fulfillment. Self-help guru Tony Robbins rightly pointed out that the first is pointless without the latter: "Success without fulfillment is the ultimate failure."
Ouch---so how then do you choose between the two poles of the Money-Meaning Dilemma?
The good news is that you don't have to.
There is a way out of this dilemma.
You can have a life of "True Success" (= external success and internal fulfillment).
However, it requires making a significant shift that begins internally.
We often treat meaning (or purpose) as something that comes from what we do professionally in the world. As a result, many people believe that they need to make external changes in order to feel more purpose in their lives.
However, equating purpose with our profession and our external output is an incomplete perspective.
If we want to unlock the real power of meaning, we need to broaden our understanding of what it is.
According to Frankl, two of the main sources for finding meaning in life are work --- and love. In the context of meaning, I would define these two words broadly:
Work describes a contribution we make through our doing in the world.
Love describes a sense of connection we feel through our being in the world.
In my view, these two are not separate from each other. As the Lebanese-American poet and writer Khalil Gibran
so beautifully put it: "Work is love made visible."
In other words, what we would typically call our purpose is ultimately an outside expression of love. Once we bring love to our exploration of what we want to do in the world, everything changes.
Purpose, being intrinsically related to love, is something that starts on the inside. While purpose is often expressed externally, it is not dependent on outside conditions. We can begin to create a sense of purpose and experience more passion in any environment.
Would you like to find more purpose and passion right where you currently are?
If so, I invite you to explore this website and the services of Work You Love Coach.